I asked my husband to buddy-read this with me, but the ethics of it made him so uncomfortable he didn't get very far. A legitimate point -- the author herself was very troubled by what she was doing. He also felt left out of the book, since it doesn't deal with geek men at all -- also a very valid point. I would love to hear about the experiences "Ned" might have had at a con or working for a computer company.Still, it was an eye-opening book. Vincent went into the experiment of passing as a man expecting something like Eddie Murphy's "White Like Me" sketch. "I remember thinking that living as a man and having access to a man's world would be like gaining admission to the big auditorium for the main event after having spent my life watching the proceedings from a video monitor on the lawn outside." Instead she felt immersed in a world of incredible alienation and suffering.I was especially interested in Vincent's time in a monastery, in which she made a number of close friends, yet found the friendships suffocated by homophobia.A really interesting book.
